It is when we don’t see something coming that we get hit the hardest. The best evidence for this phenomenon can be seen in a boxing match. For the one they didn’t see was the one that knocked them out.
So awareness of self is very important. It will allow you to prepare and see with clarity. Then the bad becomes not so bad and the good becomes that much better.
Who knows, maybe someday you’ll even be able to see the good in the bad.